Russell Turner

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Happy Valentines Day

2019-02-14

On this special day, I want to bring you an excerpt from the Ultimate Relationship Program. I have no affiliation with the program but I think everyone should go through it. Relationships are what life is all about, and there's no more important area of your life to master.

One of the 7 master skills taught in the course is something so basic, but so important. It's something I struggle with, and I'm sure you do to.

Give Your Partner What They Really Need

We're often caught up in our own heads. And in our own frames of reference. Something you hear often when relationships fail is a person saying, "I gave her everything!" But as Tony teaches us, if you gave them everything they needed, the relationship wouldn't have ended.

So we have to get out of our heads. We have to practice empathy and take the time to understand what our lover needs most, and more importantly how to meet those needs.

You may bring home the bacon, and believe that providing for your lover is a massive gesture of love. But maybe she's craving your attention to feel loved, or to feel significant in your eyes.

I'll admit that this isn't easy. Sometimes I have a hard time figuring out what I need and I'm in my own head! So you might need some patience and persistence.

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